Jeffery Fonder Death, Obituary – Longtime Dempsey’s Public House bartender and General Manager Jeffrey Fonder, known for his warm hospitality and unwavering presence, passed away on Monday, August 12. For nearly two decades, Fonder was more than just a fixture at the popular Fargo, North Dakota, establishment; he was its soul, embodying the spirit of the bar with every handshake and hug.
Fonder’s tenure at Dempsey’s began in 2006, shortly after the bar opened its doors. His dedication to the establishment was evident in his work ethic and deep connection with the community. He began his journey behind the bar and worked his way up to become the general manager, earning accolades along the way, including multiple Best Bartender awards in the High Plains Reader’s Best Of polls.
To those who frequented the bar, Fonder was an emblem of warmth and friendliness. “He was always happy to see you,” said Dan Haglund, a longtime regular. “He always had a hug for everybody. He made everyone feel like family when you walked in, and he would say, ‘Love you, brother,’ or ‘Love you, bud.’”
The sentiment was echoed by many who knew Fonder. His impact extended beyond the walls of Dempsey’s; he was a fixture in the Fargo/Moorhead music scene, not just as a supporter but as an enthusiastic participant. “He was Dempsey’s,” Haglund said, highlighting how integral Fonder was to the bar’s identity. Spider Johnk, a Fargo artist, paid tribute to Fonder with an illustration depicting him in his signature baseball cap and long beard, underlining his status as the heart of the downtown community.
Fonder’s contributions went beyond bartending. He was instrumental in booking bands and often enjoyed live music, whether from behind the bar or in front of the stage. His involvement in the local music scene made him a beloved figure among performers and patrons alike. Ben Hoos, a concert promoter and photographer, remembered Fonder as a “beacon” to his staff and a “legend” in the music scene. Hoos appreciated Fonder’s consistent support and his readiness to offer a hug, describing him as “a sweet man” who was genuinely caring.
Anna Johnson, a member of the Fargo Arts and Culture Commission, spoke to Fonder’s character, noting that his hugs were always sincere. “He really cared about people. That’s what made the hugs so great: they were sincere.” Pat Lenertz, who performed at Dempsey’s with various bands, recounted Fonder’s kindness and enthusiasm. “He always had a smile, a hug, and pleasant conversation for us when we would come play,” Lenertz said. “He loved that place, and they all loved him.”
In remembering Jeffrey Fonder, it’s clear that his legacy is one of genuine connection and community spirit. His presence at Dempsey’s was more than just a role; it was a vital part of the bar’s identity. His impact will be felt for years to come, and his memory will live on through the countless lives he touched with his kindness and unwavering support.
